Thanks for speaking up
Time to time is refreshing to open a magazine and read something interesting, something that deserved to be shared. That was my surprise when I opened the Times Magazine and I found out about the story of Rosie Duffield.
The story of Rosie Duffield is the story of many us, but the difference is that she had a platform where she could tell her story. Early October the parliament debated about the Domestic Abuse Bill. This was the moment choose by the 48 years old labour member to tell her story. She spoke about the psychological abuse that she was victim during her last relationship. She also shared the consequences that this type of relationship cause. An abuse that don’t leave any marks in the body, for this reason is more difficult to identify and deal with.
The Times Magazine published an interview with Rosie where she explain how the relationship started and the abuse that she was subject. She explain of how the abuser used the yelling, the accusation, the instigation as weapons to defeat their victims “If you say the wrong thing, or if you even open your mouth, that’s it. That person’s in your face, yelling at you, accusing you of all kind of things, until you are just broken” says in the interview for The Times Magazine.
The Domestic Abuse Bill was introduced in the parliament during the first week of October, the idea behind this new bill is to “raise awareness and understanding about the devastating impact of domestic abuse on victims and their families, further improve the effectiveness of the justice system in providing protection for victims of domestic abuse and bringing perpetrators to justice and strengthen the support for victims of abuse by statutory agencies” . The problem, like Rosie mentioned during her interview is “I suppose if there are bruises, you cover them up with make-up and you put your face on, but mine were all internal. I was just sad, so much of the time”. So how a bill can help in a situation that it can’t be seen? It is very difficult to spot the signs of a narcissist abuser even inside the relationship, this is because normally they make you feel like is your fault, that you are crazy and “out of your mind”. Rosie also mention this during her interview “‘I told you I was working’ He hadn’t- then he would make you fell like you’re mad, you’ve imagined it, you’re being really unreasonable”.
It is a matter of time to see how this bill will help to the victims of domestic abuse, but for now, is very positive and inspiring to hear the words of Rosie Duffield. Like she mentioned during her speech in the parliament “If anyone is watching and needs a friend please reach out if it’s safe to do so and please talk to any of us because we will be there and we will hold your hand.”